Healthy Habits

Do Something or Do Nothing

If something bothers you, stirs up emotions, or hurts your feelings…

You have two choices… do something or do nothing.

If you choose to do something this could be:

  • Expressing your feelings about the situation
  • Removing yourself from the situation

If you chose to do nothing, that’s that. You accept the situation as it is.

Deciding Do Something or Do Nothing

There is no right or wrong choice… more like a better or worse choice depending on the current circumstances.

Is the other person open to hearing your feelings about the situation with no judgment or criticism? Or would speaking your feelings aloud cause even more argument and pain?

Would removing yourself from the situation bring more peace? Or would walking away cause more pain and suffering for yourself?

Of course you should also consider moral, ethical, and legal principles in your decision making because they are our guiding post to living a happy, fulfilled life surrounded by other happy, fulfilled humans.

So whether you decide to do something or do nothing, if it’s right for you – if your choice makes your life happier and / or healthier – it’s the better choice. So go with it.

Stimulus ~ Space ~ Response

I put my hand out to shake your hand (stimulus).

(space to decide how to respond)

Your hand meets mine for the shake (response).

Something bothers you and stirs up emotions (stimulus).

(space to decide how to respond)

Take a deep breath (response).

NOW, you can allow your best self to decide how you are going to respond.

Wrapping Up

Take a deep breath before deciding how you are going to respond to something. Especially if that something makes you upset, frustrated, etc.

Are you doing to do something, or do nothing? Make a plan and see it through or let go and move on.

Healthy Habits

Replay → Reground

Replay is when we are imagining a situation in our mind over and over again.

We might be thinking about what we could have or should have done differently.

Or we might be thinking about the future, about responsibilities, goals, or reality.

And we probably now feel super overwhelmed and frustrated, which can lead to feeling off for hours, days, weeks, months… years.

We just can’t shake it. We keep thinking and thinking and thinking and that makes us more and more anxious. We carry it instead of putting it down and going on our way.

This is a prime example of the internal conflict “Replay”. And sadly, these types of conflicts can make our bodies very unhealthy overtime. They eat away at us physically, mentally, emotionally bit by bit. 

Awareness is Key

As we always say on One Percent Healthier, the first step to change is Awareness.

Noticing that Replay is happening is the first step to get out of replay.

How does Replay feel at this moment? Are your core values conflicting? Did you make a mistake? Do you want better but do the opposite? What can you do differently moving forward to get better results? Do you have a plan, or is there a plan you can review?

When you notice, or are aware, you can take space. You can work through these mental barriers and come out stronger / more equipped for life.

When we notice the thoughts and feelings we are experiencing, we can use them as stepping stones, as a way to keep evolving, as prompts to ask questions and learn more from this school of life, instead of being stuck in Replay.

Side note: Most of the people you’ll meet during this lifetime will be stuck in their own version of Replay. Thinking and thinking on and on about things that happened or might happen. And they may never notice the internal conflict. They live in survival mode and most likely believe who they truly are, are the thoughts and feelings they have. Soooo be on high alert and respond accordingly ☺

Below are the mental seedlings I drop in my own mind so that I can begin to move out of Replay and into the Present (consciousness without thinking):

“I’m experiencing Replay and that’s okay. This is common in humans. And I know that I am not the thoughts and feelings I am experiencing, but the Awareness that notices. Who I truly am is more than Replay. I am the stillness that creates life. And I can create my own peace of mind.”

Reground (self love timeee!)

Congrats! At this point in Replay recovery you have dug deep and planted some positive seeds that will flourish with the right care. What kinda care? Self careee, my fav!

Open the windows or take a walk, drink water, eat a healthy snack, burn sage or palo santo, wear some crystals, brew herbal tea, play meditation or classical music, put a face mask on, do some yoga, read some blogs, create, watch a documentary, and whatever else you can and would like to do to relax and feel happier and healthier.

Wrapping Up

Mental health is real, we know this. But what does that mean? It means that we have to do the work to BUILD and MAINTAIN our mental health.

Just like we eat healthy and exercise to build and maintain our physical health, we reflect and we consciously think positive thoughts to build and maintain our mental health.

We reflect by noticing our thoughts and feelings and doing the work to cope in a positive and productive way.

We consciously think positive thoughts by making the effort to find things to be grateful for, to have less judgement and more compassion, to cut off the expectations and learn to let life happen and be grateful for everything that is the present moment.

You are more than your thoughts and feelings. You are the creator of your own beautiful life

x Cor