If something bothers you, stirs up emotions, or hurts your feelings…
You have two choices… do something or do nothing.
If you choose to do something this could be:
- Expressing your feelings about the situation
- Removing yourself from the situation
If you chose to do nothing, that’s that. You accept the situation as it is.
Deciding Do Something or Do Nothing
There is no right or wrong choice… more like a better or worse choice depending on the current circumstances.
Is the other person open to hearing your feelings about the situation with no judgment or criticism? Or would speaking your feelings aloud cause even more argument and pain?
Would removing yourself from the situation bring more peace? Or would walking away cause more pain and suffering for yourself?
Of course you should also consider moral, ethical, and legal principles in your decision making because they are our guiding post to living a happy, fulfilled life surrounded by other happy, fulfilled humans.
So whether you decide to do something or do nothing, if it’s right for you – if your choice makes your life happier and / or healthier – it’s the better choice. So go with it.
Stimulus ~ Space ~ Response
I put my hand out to shake your hand (stimulus).
(space to decide how to respond)
Your hand meets mine for the shake (response).
Something bothers you and stirs up emotions (stimulus).
(space to decide how to respond)
Take a deep breath (response).
NOW, you can allow your best self to decide how you are going to respond.
Wrapping Up
Use space to your advantage when something happens to make you upset or frustrated.
In other words, respond to anger or pain with a deeeep breath to calm your nerves.
Then decide… do something or do nothing. And act accordingly.
x Cor
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