Goals

How do you deal?

When something bothers you, how do you deal with it?

Do you stomp your feet?

Do you accept without resistance?

Do you pop off at the first sign of opposition?

Or do you keep your reactions in line with your values?

Growing up, my mom taught me to express myself physically and verbally (the Philly attitude that we all know and love lol) but as I got older I realized that I can choose how I react… and my life changed forever.

I don’t get into altercations with others like I did before, things that used to bother me no longer have the same effect. My life is evolving for the better because my reactions are better.

I now take a second to breathe and think how I want to respond. I accept and do what I can in the moment. I try to see it from all sides. And I try to hold compassion and empathy forefront.

So how do you deal?

Goals

Taking a walk

Hearing wind chimes, birds, lawn mowers.

Smelling fresh air, the flowers and greenery.

Seeing houses, cars, people, stores, streets, animals, plants.

Feeling my phone in my hand, champ’s leash on my arm, and socks on my feet. Also feeling grateful, a little hungry, sweaty, and inspired.

Tasting peppermint.

Thinking about the moment. Grounding myself in the now.

Healthy Habits

Do Something or Do Nothing

If something bothers you, stirs up emotions, or hurts your feelings…

You have two choices… do something or do nothing.

If you choose to do something this could be:

  • Expressing your feelings about the situation
  • Removing yourself from the situation

If you chose to do nothing, that’s that. You accept the situation as it is.

Deciding Do Something or Do Nothing

There is no right or wrong choice… more like a better or worse choice depending on the current circumstances.

Is the other person open to hearing your feelings about the situation with no judgment or criticism? Or would speaking your feelings aloud cause even more argument and pain?

Would removing yourself from the situation bring more peace? Or would walking away cause more pain and suffering for yourself?

Of course you should also consider moral, ethical, and legal principles in your decision making because they are our guiding post to living a happy, fulfilled life surrounded by other happy, fulfilled humans.

So whether you decide to do something or do nothing, if it’s right for you – if your choice makes your life happier and / or healthier – it’s the better choice. So go with it.

Stimulus ~ Space ~ Response

I put my hand out to shake your hand (stimulus).

(space to decide how to respond)

Your hand meets mine for the shake (response).

Something bothers you and stirs up emotions (stimulus).

(space to decide how to respond)

Take a deep breath (response).

NOW, you can allow your best self to decide how you are going to respond.

Wrapping Up

Use space to your advantage when something happens to make you upset or frustrated.

In other words, respond to anger or pain with a deeeep breath to calm your nerves.

Then decide… do something or do nothing. And act accordingly.

x Cor