Goals

Review your plan often

Okay, so at this point you set your goals and created a plan to achieve them.

You now know what you have to do on a daily basis to accomplish your goals.

You took the time to figure it out…

What you want, and how you’re going to get there.

“How often should I review my plan?”

When you first create your plan, I suggest diving into it daily. Reread your plan and see where you can adjust things (+ / -) to make your plan more simple and relevant to you.

Since plans are constantly adjusted, they are constantly changing. That’s why we can’t wait to have the “perfect plan” to get started, because the perfect plan doesn’t exist.

Your goal grows and manifests through your plan. It’s up to you to decide on the path you take to get there by reviewing your plan on an on-going basis.

When you feel like your plan is in a solid place, scale back diving into your plan on a weekly basis to see if any adjustments are needed.

Plan. Do. Review.

Stay blessed friends!

PS – check out this weight loss plan for reference 🙂

Goals

Morning emotions matter

You wake up full of wonder.

Your mind is racing – thinking about the day ahead, your past, your future.

5 deep belly breaths to calm your nerves.

Use your 5 senses to ground yourself in the now – hear, see, feel, smell, taste.

Name 3 things you are grateful for.

Bring this feeling of peace into the day with you. Namaste.

Goals

When a person is right, their world will be right

In the happiness project, Gretchen Rubin talks about how focusing on her happiness made those around her happier.

I totally agree with that…

I have a better attitude in the morning, Joe has a better attitude in the morning.

I smile at a stranger, the stranger smiles back.

If I’m not thinking right / unhappy, my attitude will be shit and I definitely won’t be smiling.

A quote Stuart Danker lives by: When a person is right, their world will be right.

Your outer world reflects your inner world my friends. Stay blessed.

Healthy Habits

Do Something or Do Nothing

If something bothers you, stirs up emotions, or hurts your feelings…

You have two choices… do something or do nothing.

If you choose to do something this could be:

  • Expressing your feelings about the situation
  • Removing yourself from the situation

If you chose to do nothing, that’s that. You accept the situation as it is.

Deciding Do Something or Do Nothing

There is no right or wrong choice… more like a better or worse choice depending on the current circumstances.

Is the other person open to hearing your feelings about the situation with no judgment or criticism? Or would speaking your feelings aloud cause even more argument and pain?

Would removing yourself from the situation bring more peace? Or would walking away cause more pain and suffering for yourself?

Of course you should also consider moral, ethical, and legal principles in your decision making because they are our guiding post to living a happy, fulfilled life surrounded by other happy, fulfilled humans.

So whether you decide to do something or do nothing, if it’s right for you – if your choice makes your life happier and / or healthier – it’s the better choice. So go with it.

Stimulus ~ Space ~ Response

I put my hand out to shake your hand (stimulus).

(space to decide how to respond)

Your hand meets mine for the shake (response).

Something bothers you and stirs up emotions (stimulus).

(space to decide how to respond)

Take a deep breath (response).

NOW, you can allow your best self to decide how you are going to respond.

Wrapping Up

Use space to your advantage when something happens to make you upset or frustrated.

In other words, respond to anger or pain with a deeeep breath to calm your nerves.

Then decide… do something or do nothing. And act accordingly.

x Cor

Healthy Habits

How to Win Friends & Influence People

Below are the principles of how to win friends and influence people laid out in the classic non-fiction book How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

I’ve added in a few of my own notes to further explain some points. A weekly goal I have is to read through this list intently – really trying to understand and apply in my own life the timeless message that is taught. And it truly has changed my life forever, for the better.

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

  1. Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.
    1. Criticize: indicate faults in a disapproving way
    2. Condemn: express complete disapproval of, typically publicly
    3. Complain: express dissatisfaction or annoyance about something
  2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
  3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
  4. Never show others that you are not interested in what they have to say.

Six Ways to Make People Like You

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

  1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
  2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say “You’re Wrong.”
  3. If you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically (ability to understand and share the feelings of another).
  4. Begin in a friendly way.
  5. Start with questions to which the other person will answer yes.
  6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
  7. Let the other person feel the idea is his or hers.
  8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
  9. Be sympathetic (understanding between people, common feelings) with the other person’s ideas and desires.
  10. Appeal to the nobler (moral) motives.
  11. Dramatize (exaggerate the seriousness or importance) your ideas.
  12. Throw down a challenge.

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

  1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
  3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
  4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
  5. Let the other person save face (avoid humiliation).
  6. Praise every improvement.
  7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
  8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
  9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.

Seven Rules For Making Your Home Life Happier

  1. Don’t nag (fault finding or continuous urging).
  2. Don’t try to make your partner over.
  3. Don’t criticize (indicate faults in a disapproving way).
  4. Give honest appreciation.
  5. Pay little attentions (do the small things with no expectation or attention drawn to it).
  6. Be courteous (polite, respectful, considerate in manner).
  7. Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.


x Corie