General, Mindset

The days are long the years are short

The days are long, full of opportunity to practice patience, focus, and will power.

Patience: the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset

Focus: the center of interest or activity

Willpower: control efforts to do something or restrain impulses

The years are short, full of opportunity to experience, reflect, and grow.

Experience: an event or occurrence that leaves an impression on someone

Reflect: think deeply or carefully about

Grow: become gradually or increasingly x

Be where your feet are. The days may feel long, but the years are short my friend.

General, Healthy Habits

2023 Habit Challenge: Choose 12 habits to work on in 2023 (1 for each month)

Before we get into it, a lil note…

Thank you for being here. I know not everyday is an easy one and I want you to know that I’m happy you’re here. I see you putting in the hard work. I see you asking the tough questions, setting boundaries, wanting better for yourself. I see you doing what you need to day in and day out. It all is moving in your favor. Bit by bit you’re getting better, healthier, stronger. Keep going. Brighter days are coming. The best is yet to come.

Hi friends! Happy new year 🙂

In the spirit of planning for 2023 and setting up the year for success, here’s a fun 2023 challenge to help us build healthier, stronger habits for ourselves.

This past year (2022), we talked about how what you eat adds up and the power of daily routines.

It’s one thing to know what to do

It’s another thing to actually do.

In other words, knowledge is only power when we apply it.

We can bridge the gap between knowing and doing through this Happiness-Project-Inspired habit challenge:

Choose 12 habits to work on in 2023 (1 for each month)

Write out 12 habits you’d like to work on this year. Think about where you’re at in life right now and what you could use more of. Then match the habits with the months. Below is mine for some inspiration 🙂

  • January: eat more plants
  • February: do the little things without bringing attention to them
  • March: get organized
  • April: don’t take things personally
  • June: eat more fruit
  • July: wear more sunscreen
  • August: spend time with friends
  • September: mobility during morning and night routines
  • October: get really uncomfortable once a day
  • November: plan for next year
  • December: ask tough questions

Being healthy and fit comes down to your habits: what you’re doing and consuming on a daily basis.

Focusing on one habit at a time gives us the space to explore said habit and adjust it to fit into our lives.

Explore

For the first two weeks of the month, we take the space to explore a new habit by asking questions like…

How will my life change for the better if I build this new habit?
pros, cons, how will this habit impact me in the long-run? how will this habit affect those around me?

Is this a realistic habit for my life’s situation?
some examples of unrealistic habits based on life situations:

  • get to the gym everyday vs get a 30 min workout in everyday
    what if the gym is closed or the weather’s bad? do you miss a day because of something you can’t control?
  • read 10 pages vs read for 30 mins
    10 pages may take you longer or less than 30 mins to read depending on the book or your reading level

What does it look like to have this habit going in the day to day?
visualize and really feel yourself doing these things

What do I need to do on an on-going basis to help build this habit?
same thing here, visualize the process and feel all the feels

Adjust

For the last two weeks of the month, we adjust a new habit to fit into our lives.

We start the work to incorporate this new habit in our day to day and work to keep the habit going.

This is where our explore research and findings come in handy. You already know what you have to do. Keep track of your progress in a Google sheet or doc for easy reflection and adjustment.

Wrapping Up

If we are trying to build multiple healthy habits at once, none of them get the proper time and attention. Lots of wants and wishes get swept under the rug for lack of time, energy, and attention.

Focusing in on one habit at a time allows us to create a solid foundation to build on.

Challenge yourself: Choose 12 habits to work on in 2023 (1 for each month).

We’ve all heard the saying: “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” Brick by brick bitches 🙂 love y’all

Goals

Vision Exercise (2023)

​​What are 5 things you value most in life?

Picture and envision your ideal life. What does it look, sound, and feel like?

What makes this vision of your life really important to you? Why do you really want to reach this vision?

Imagine yourself in the future 3 years from now, as you look back what specific goals and milestones did you achieve? (be specific)

How can your goals specifically assist you in achieving your ideal life vision and your “why”?

​​What strengths can you draw on to achieve your goals? What are you naturally good at?

What habits do you need to establish or improve to reach your goals?

What is your top priority goal to achieve in the next 90 days?

Goals

Review your plan often

Okay, so at this point you set your goals and created a plan to achieve them.

You now know what you have to do on a daily basis to accomplish your goals.

You took the time to figure it out…

What you want, and how you’re going to get there.

“How often should I review my plan?”

When you first create your plan, I suggest diving into it daily. Reread your plan and see where you can adjust things (+ / -) to make your plan more simple and relevant to you.

Since plans are constantly adjusted, they are constantly changing. That’s why we can’t wait to have the “perfect plan” to get started, because the perfect plan doesn’t exist.

Your goal grows and manifests through your plan. It’s up to you to decide on the path you take to get there by reviewing your plan on an on-going basis.

When you feel like your plan is in a solid place, scale back diving into your plan on a weekly basis to see if any adjustments are needed.

Plan. Do. Review.

Stay blessed friends!

PS – check out this weight loss plan for reference 🙂

Goals

Think big picture

What do you want big picture?

Think 5, 10, 20 years out. What’s the end of the movie look like? Think BIG. These are our Someday Goals.

Finance: this could be a net worth goal, total # of paid off rental units, etc.

Personal: this could be anything under the sun that is personal to you – mine is to help a million people live a healthier life.

Health: this could be physical, mental, emotional, and/or spiritual health-related. E.g.) delay / reverse an illness, cure mental chatter, heal emotions, connect with higher power.

Fitness: # of pull-ups, run x distance, compete in x amount of races / tournaments, etc.

Tools to get there

If we think ahead now, we can start to do a little bit everyday to achieve our goals.

The Life Map System will help you create the life of your dreams by prompting you to:

  • define your Someday Goals
  • break down your Someday Goals into Daily Goals

Daily Goals can be tracked via the Daily Powerlist.

No more wishing or wanting. If it’s a goal on the Life Map, it’s getting done.

Wrapping Up

Success starts with thinking big picture and using the Life Map and Daily Powerlist as tools to get there.

Healthy Habits

Siesta: mid-day downtime

A few hours of down time after a big lunch to reset and reenergize? Sign me up!

I’ve been enjoying a siesta a few times a week now and am loving it.

7:30am – MORNING ROUTINE

Wake up and do my morning routine.

9am – WORKOUT

Get to the gym and put in that work.

11am – BIG LUNCH

Make a big 3-course plant-based lunch.

12:30pm – SIESTA (reset time)

Rest up with my legs on the wall, read some pages, do yoga, drink tea, think, journal, get some education in, and take a lil nappy.

3pm – ACTIVE INCOME

Money making time (2nd shift vibes).

10pm – NIGHT ROUTINE

Wash up and do my night routine.

Wrapping Up

A siesta is a chunk of time (typically in the afternoon hours after a big lunch) dedicated to resetting our energy levels, allowing us to be more productive in a shorter amount of time.

If you are feeling tired mid-day, take a siesta to get reenergized and end your day on a high note 🙂

Goals

A little bit everyday

The little stuff adds up overtime.

You workout today, you won’t see much difference physically.

You workout today, tomorrow, and everyday for a year, you’ll see and feel the difference.

You read 10 pages today, you won’t see much difference mentally and emotionally.

You read today, tomorrow, and everyday for a year, you’ll see and feel the difference.

It’s very much choosing our path in life.

If we decide to do the little things today to get to our goals, we’ll get there overtime.

If we don’t decide to do the little things today to get to our goals, we’ll never get there.

If you do, you will.

If you don’t, you will never.

This blog reminds me of what you eat adds up.

Happy December my loves! Let’s keep rocking on our goals.

Healthy Habits

It’s easy to be hard & hard to be easy

Easy choices make life hard and hard choices make life easy.

Choosing the easy

We can absolutely choose to lay in bed all day.

We can choose to do the bare minimum and just get by.

We can chose to do the easy stuff.

These are all legit choices and they are made everyday by people just like you and I.

Ever meet someone who refuses to eat healthy? No matter what, they always go for the junk food. “But junk food is EASY. I can just grab and go and get filled up from it.”

The downside to this easy choice are the side effects to eating junk food everyday for a long period of time. And these side effects make life hard.

This easy choice could and most likely will affect your health, self-confidence, relationships, communication, and even commitment negatively.

By choosing the easy day after day: eating unhealthy junk food, life becomes harder in every aspect.

Choosing the hard

We can also choose to get out of bed when the alarm goes off.

We can choose to do our best and make our dreams a reality.

We can choose to do the hard stuff.

These are also legit choices and they are made everyday by people like you and I.

Ever see a real happy person, like they’re happy all the time? And maybe ya think: “Man it must be so nice to be that happy. They don’t even have to try, they’re always just THAT happy.”

Effortless happiness is a myth. It takes HARD work to be happy. It takes constant awareness: reframing negative thoughts, finding gratitude, replenishing energy, sharing good vibes with others.

The upside to this hard choice are the side effects to being happy everyday for a long period of time. And these side effects make life easy.

This hard choice could and most likely will affect your health, self-confidence, relationships, communication, and even commitment positively.

By choosing the hard day after day: to really work on being happy, life becomes easier in every aspect.

Wrapping Up

There’s an easy choice and a hard choice for every situation.

The easy choice now leads to a harder tomorrow.

The hard choice now leads to an easier tomorrow.

Let’s start to ask ourselves in as many moments as we can remember: “What’s the hard choice here that will get me to my goals? Make me happier, healthier, more fulfilled?”

It’s easy to be heavy and hard to be light.

G.K. Chesterton
General, Goals

Life Map: A Goal Setting System

Writing down our goals and breaking them down into small, doable tasks is how we get extraordinary results.

Good builders don’t build without a blueprint. So why would we make the mistake of just winging life and taking whatever it gives us, when we can make actual plans and live a life of our own design?

Lifestyle by design → making our dream life a reality. It’s totally doable, ya just have to know what you want. And that’s where the Life Map comes into play!


Let’s create a Google spreadsheet. Categories going down, Goals going across.

Or just download a template of mine here 🙂


Choose 3-5 categories

What are your top 3-5 categories that you’d like to set big “someday” goals in?

  • Personal
  • Fitness
  • Health
  • Business
  • Finance
  • Romance
  • Charity


Someday goal

Next, we’re going to come up with a “someday goal” for each category. This is where visualizing what you want your life to look like comes in handy! It’s the perfect time to write out your dream life.

Once you have a someday goal for each category, let’s move on to each category individually:


5 year goal

What’s the one thing I can do in 5 years that will help me accomplish my someday goal?


1 year goal

What’s the one thing I can do this year that will help me accomplish my 5 year goal?


1 week goal

What’s the one thing I can do this week that will help me accomplish my 1 year goal?


Daily goal

What’s the one thing I can do today that will help me accomplish my 1 week goal?


BONUS: Right now goal

What’s the one thing I can do right now that will help me accomplish my daily goal?


Wrapping Up

The Life Map will keep you on track toward your goals, and will help you make big and small decisions you’ll be faced with down the road – “will saying yes to this push me toward my goals or away from them?”

The Life Map is a tool, and must be used on an on-going basis to get the best results possible. Yes that means reviewing your sheet daily 🙂

Your Life Map will be ever-evolving as you accomplish goals and replace them with new ones, so don’t get stuck on getting everything written out perfectly before taking action on your daily goals. Goals may change, even categories may change. The key is to keep up on the dailies and adjust along the way.

Take control of what you can control. Small actions lead to big results.

Commit to the Life Map and create the life of your dreams 🙂

X Cor

General

Get to know your preferences

What do I prefer? If I could do and have exactly what I wanted, what would it be? What would life look like?

I just recently learned that I prefer melons over berries in the morning. Weird but true.

So maybe you’re melons instead of berries like me.

Or maybe you’re yoga instead of weight training.

We have tons of choices in life…

Which choices do you vibe with?

Whatever your preferences, get to know them – be real and honest.

Only then can we start to make small changes in our day to day that keep us inspired and motivated to keep getting after it.

Lifestyle by design: Asking more questions.