Healthy Habits

How do we take blame?

Taking blame is setting a standard for communicating our thoughts and feelings, working to live up to it, and adjusting along the way as needed.

For example…

Someone says something that doesn’t sit well with us for whatever reason.

We may be taking it personally.

Taking blame in this situation would be asking more questions before responding right away.

So instead of clapping right back, let’s take a breath and ask ourselves…

How can we respond with love in this moment?

Responding with love is holding ourselves and our actions accountable.

And we can start by trying to understand the other person’s intentions.

What are they really trying to communicate?

What are they looking to get out of saying it?

Focusing on the why they said it vs what they said.

Communicating thoughts and feelings is tough on EVERYONE. Most people don’t even realize that’s a thing.

Taking blame is realizing that we all play a role, what could we do differently next time?

We’re responsible for all of our actions or lack there of. So why focus on anything else?

Goals

Spend time in nature

Hi all! I’m writing to you from a tree hammock that I set up in Pennypack 🙂

I just finished up doing my daily mile – today was hiking hills!

The park is so refreshing with all the plants and animals, the fresh air is unmatched.

I always leave feeling happy and inspired.

Whether it’s a hike in the park, doing some gardening, taking a walk around the block, deep breathing…

Spend time in your inner world. Nature.

Goals

Find your sacred spot

It could be a little nook in the corner of the house, your bedroom, a writing desk, where ever you feel relaxed and inspired.

Fill your space with things that bring you joy…

Plants, pillows, a candle, blanket maybe, some good books, incense, a journal.

Use your sacred space to set morning intentions, as a retreat to decompress, when you need a lift in spirits, when you want to ponder or create.

Play some Classical Relaxation or Native American Flute on Pandora to set the mood…

And enjoy this sacred place you created for yourself.

Goals

How do you deal?

When something bothers you, how do you deal with it?

Do you stomp your feet?

Do you accept without resistance?

Do you pop off at the first sign of opposition?

Or do you keep your reactions in line with your values?

Growing up, my mom taught me to express myself physically and verbally (the Philly attitude that we all know and love lol) but as I got older I realized that I can choose how I react… and my life changed forever.

I don’t get into altercations with others like I did before, things that used to bother me no longer have the same effect. My life is evolving for the better because my reactions are better.

I now take a second to breathe and think how I want to respond. I accept and do what I can in the moment. I try to see it from all sides. And I try to hold compassion and empathy forefront.

So how do you deal?

Goals

Taking a walk

Hearing wind chimes, birds, lawn mowers.

Smelling fresh air, the flowers and greenery.

Seeing houses, cars, people, stores, streets, animals, plants.

Feeling my phone in my hand, champ’s leash on my arm, and socks on my feet. Also feeling grateful, a little hungry, sweaty, and inspired.

Tasting peppermint.

Thinking about the moment. Grounding myself in the now.

Goals

Embrace the day

Where do you find yourself now?

Maybe in a park, at home, at work.

How are you feeling?

Content? Present?

Uneasy? Anxious?

Is there anything you can do to make the very best of this moment?

Like taking a deep breath, showing gratitude, feeling joy, being creative, smiling.

Goals

You are everything you need

No matter what you’re going through…

You have the power to redirect your thinking.

You can think about what you’re grateful for.

You can think about peace and love.

You can think about ideas and concepts.

You can think about your own point of view.

When times get tough, let’s look inward and change the narrative.

Healthy Habits

Do Something or Do Nothing

If something bothers you, stirs up emotions, or hurts your feelings…

You have two choices… do something or do nothing.

If you choose to do something this could be:

  • Expressing your feelings about the situation
  • Removing yourself from the situation

If you chose to do nothing, that’s that. You accept the situation as it is.

Deciding Do Something or Do Nothing

There is no right or wrong choice… more like a better or worse choice depending on the current circumstances.

Is the other person open to hearing your feelings about the situation with no judgment or criticism? Or would speaking your feelings aloud cause even more argument and pain?

Would removing yourself from the situation bring more peace? Or would walking away cause more pain and suffering for yourself?

Of course you should also consider moral, ethical, and legal principles in your decision making because they are our guiding post to living a happy, fulfilled life surrounded by other happy, fulfilled humans.

So whether you decide to do something or do nothing, if it’s right for you – if your choice makes your life happier and / or healthier – it’s the better choice. So go with it.

Stimulus ~ Space ~ Response

I put my hand out to shake your hand (stimulus).

(space to decide how to respond)

Your hand meets mine for the shake (response).

Something bothers you and stirs up emotions (stimulus).

(space to decide how to respond)

Take a deep breath (response).

NOW, you can allow your best self to decide how you are going to respond.

Wrapping Up

Use space to your advantage when something happens to make you upset or frustrated.

In other words, respond to anger or pain with a deeeep breath to calm your nerves.

Then decide… do something or do nothing. And act accordingly.

x Cor