Finding the power to speak up.
Ever find yourself in a situation where you were torn between saying something to someone or not?
It’s like instant tension between I should and nah I shouldn’t…
Why is it that we hold ourselves back from speaking up?
Whether it’s speaking up on an idea, complimenting someone, cracking a joke or smile- why is there a part of us that doesn’t want us to branch out the way we would like to?
Is it because we’re self conscious? Is it because we’ve gotten shut down before? Are we replaying a negative story in our head that is holding us back?
Anytime I feel the urge to stay quiet and comfortable when I have the opportunity to stand out, I push myself to shift the focus on what I truly want:
- To spread kindness
- To learn from others
- To share with others
So to avoid the hesitation, I shift the focus onto other people…
- How are they?
- What do they do?
- What’s a lesson they could share?
- How are they processing the situation?
- What are their thoughts?
- Why do they think that way?
Simply asking questions and being genuinely interested in them.
And as with any habit, the more often we speak up when we want to the easier it will become.
It’ll become routine.
It’s a great way to build confidence and enhance the relationships around you.
Growing up, I wasn’t someone who was outspoken.
I wouldn’t just strike up a conversation with anyone.
I barely made eye contact when I was out and rarely said anything other than please and thank you to strangers.
As I started speaking up more and taking action on the urges to branch out, I found that I feel much more connected with the world around me.
My career is people oriented and this technique has brought me into some meaningful conversations while I’m out.
I smile. I make the eye contact. I stay engaged and fully, genuinely interested.
It’s super simple stuff: connecting with the people around you is how you spread kindness and joy, which in turn brings you your own joy and happiness!
x Corie
