Healthy Habits

How do we take blame?

Taking blame is setting a standard for communicating our thoughts and feelings, working to live up to it, and adjusting along the way as needed.

For example…

Someone says something that doesn’t sit well with us for whatever reason.

We may be taking it personally.

Taking blame in this situation would be asking more questions before responding right away.

So instead of clapping right back, let’s take a breath and ask ourselves…

How can we respond with love in this moment?

Responding with love is holding ourselves and our actions accountable.

And we can start by trying to understand the other person’s intentions.

What are they really trying to communicate?

What are they looking to get out of saying it?

Focusing on the why they said it vs what they said.

Communicating thoughts and feelings is tough on EVERYONE. Most people don’t even realize that’s a thing.

Taking blame is realizing that we all play a role, what could we do differently next time?

We’re responsible for all of our actions or lack there of. So why focus on anything else?

Goals

What does it mean to know yourself?

In the left hand, we have love and peace.

In the right hand, we have pain and hurt.

Both sides are within us.

To know yourself is to know that the feelings of pain and hurt are within you as well as the feelings of love and peace.

To know yourself is to no longer get surprised when feelings of anger or sadness come up…

They’re actually expected to surface now and then, in fact anticipated.

To know yourself is to know how to attract positive energy back into your life when you are experiencing negative thoughts and feelings.

When you feel anger boil up – maybe someone’s driving slow on the road for example – are we letting the feeling of anger take over? Or are we taking a breather and letting it go?

Simply knowing both the pain and the peace are within you may give you a sense of relief.

You’re no longer fighting against the current…

You’re flowing with the tide.