Healthy Habits

How do we take blame?

Taking blame is setting a standard for communicating our thoughts and feelings, working to live up to it, and adjusting along the way as needed.

For example…

Someone says something that doesn’t sit well with us for whatever reason.

We may be taking it personally.

Taking blame in this situation would be asking more questions before responding right away.

So instead of clapping right back, let’s take a breath and ask ourselves…

How can we respond with love in this moment?

Responding with love is holding ourselves and our actions accountable.

And we can start by trying to understand the other person’s intentions.

What are they really trying to communicate?

What are they looking to get out of saying it?

Focusing on the why they said it vs what they said.

Communicating thoughts and feelings is tough on EVERYONE. Most people don’t even realize that’s a thing.

Taking blame is realizing that we all play a role, what could we do differently next time?

We’re responsible for all of our actions or lack there of. So why focus on anything else?

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Take the blame, point the credit

Old way of thinking: take the credit, point the blame. This is how most people operate.

New way of thinking: take the blame, point the credit. This is how the greats operate.


Take the blame

We’re responsible for our actions or lack there of.

What could have we done differently?

No pointing fingers at others.

What did we do wrong?

We don’t have to respond with blame on others, we choose to.


Point the credit

We’re responsible for creating incredible things.

You play a role. So do others.

Point the credit to others as often as you can.

For example, my blog post goes viral – I can only thank the tools I have in front of me, the people who made and manage them, and the inspiration around me because without them all a viral blog post would not even be a thing.

We see you putting in the work, however there are no gold stars in life. What we get are feelings.

We feel happy and accomplished for example even if it’s just for the time being.

And when we point credit, we give these gifts of happiness to others.

We feel happy and now so do they 🙂


Wrapping up

Give credit instead of taking credit. When you point credit to others, you are giving them a gift of happiness and a fine reputation to hold up.

Self reflect instead of pointing fingers. When you take blame and reflect on your actions, you grow as an individual and show up in the world a better person.

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It’s not what we do, it’s how we do it

Let’s say for example two people both work at the same place.

One works with enthusiasm: always looking for ways to improve their skills, grow the company, and connect with coworkers.

The other works with misery: always pointing things out in a negative way, gossiping, complaining, and criticizing others.

Both of these people work at the same exact place. Yet both have a completely different experience.

One loves work.

One hates work.

The difference between the two? Their ways of thinking.

One wants to be the best they can be.

One wants to be miserable (whether they want to admit it or not).

The beauty of this realization is that WE (yes you and me and every other human) get to choose our own ways of thinking.

Do we focus on the love or the hate?

More deeper…

Are we consciously looking for the positive, reframing the negatives, and trying our best in each passing moment?

Or are we unconsciously looking for the negative, denying any positives, and ignoring the little moments in front of us?

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Practice patience

By practicing patience, we allow our nerves to relax, our minds to clear, and our lives unfold in a much calmer and natural way.


How can we practice patience?

We can practice patience by taking 5 deep belly breaths.


When can we practice patience?

  • If realize you are rushing around
  • If you catch yourself wanting to speed up a life situation or just life in general
  • If you find yourself wishing you were somewhere different
  • If you notice that you’re longing for different things / a different life


Taking a breather and slowing it down when our minds want to go go go.

Another easy to do, easy not to do thing.

Stay patient my friends and stay blessed💚

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Higher Form of Reasoning

Something bad ever happen and it turned out to be for your own good in the end?

Maybe you learned a valuable lesson, or an opportunity came and you were at the right place at the right time.

Higher Form of Reasoning is a way of thinking, a belief, that everything that happens is for our greater good.

The good, the bad, all of it.

This way of thinking invites more love, joy, happiness, and hopefulness in our lives.

When we dwell on the bad, victimizing ourselves “poor us” – we invite more grief, sadness, anger, and jealously in our lives.

Higher Form of Reasoning tells us that it’s all working in our favor 🙂