With the Scorpio New Moon here (deep, intense, and super transformative), I challenged myself to sit down and think deeper.
What am I holding to? What am I not forgiving myself or others for? Do negative thoughts keeping popping up around certain situations? I may need to add it to my list of Forgive and Let Go.
After sitting down for a few minutes, I wrote out 10 situations involving multiple people that still bother me. I was blown away at how much I’ve been holding onto, not fully letting go of. They came quick to mind once I let it all come up without judging right or wrong.
How am I gonna juggle all these situations emotionally moving forward? I know this pain is real, there’s no denying – but in order to heal, I know I have to truly FORGIVE AND LET GO. BUT HOW?! Here are my notes below:
3 Steps to Forgive and Let Go
1. Acknowledge the hurt and emotions
- Recognize the pain: Acknowledge the emotional pain caused by the offense and how it has affected you.
- Name your feelings: Recognize and allow yourself to feel emotions like anger, sadness, betrayal, or resentment without judgment. Suppressing them won’t make them disappear.
- Process your feelings: Share your feelings by journaling, talking to a trusted friend or counselor, or taking a similar action, like writing a letter you don’t send.
2. Understand and gain perspective
- Consider the context: Reflect on the surrounding circumstances to better understand what happened.
- Humanize the other person: Try to understand the other person’s motives or circumstances without excusing their behavior. Empathy for their frailties as a human being can make it easier to show compassion.
- Let go of unrealistic expectations: Release the belief that things should have been different. Expect reality to be as it is, which can reduce resentment.
3. Make a conscious choice to forgive
- Decide to forgive: Make a deliberate choice to forgive, understanding that it is for your own emotional and mental health.
- Release resentment: Practice letting go of negative feelings and thoughts and replace them with healthier coping mechanisms.
- Commit to it: Forgiveness is an ongoing process. Recommit to letting go on days when feelings resurface. Focus on today and the future instead of dwelling on the past.
Personal growth is all about getting a little bit better, stronger, healthier, more open-minded each day. Bringing awareness to the things that have been pulling me down is liberating. I’ll be working on them on-goingly and will report back here about how my overall well-being and peace of mind have been affected.
Forgive and let go my friends!
“Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff.” – Richard Carlson
Remember: techniques like journaling, talking to a trusted friend or counselor, or setting boundaries can help majorly with forgiving and letting go.
I also found that genuine prayer helps me heal. I pray for myself and those around me. The more I pray, the more I forgive, let go, and ultimately heal. I can feel the transformation within, and can feel the energy around me and those I pray for shift. Deep calmness. Almost like an emotional and spiritual reset.
It’s my responsibility to tend my garden, to pull weeds and water flowers. Using this blog as a tool to work on emotional pain and forgiveness.
Progress over perfection.
x Cor
