Category: Mental Health

Healthy Habits, Mental Health, Snippets

What’s the best way to deal with negative thoughts?

Corie Muldoon

For every negative thought say 2 positive things. Accept that negative thoughts exist but they are not you. What we focus on expands. If I think about complaining, instead of actually complaining, I work to breathe through the sensation in the moment (usually only takes a few seconds but one minute is also typical) then say 2 positive things. Can be out loud or to yourself. Thoughts dictate emotions. Emotions dictate thoughts. Good thoughts and positive emotions = happiness. It takes work to be happy. It’s easy to complain and focus on negative thoughts, that takes no additional effort or training. But the more we work to plant those positive thoughts, the weeds will quite literally be weeded out and you’ll see them less and less.

Keep on stepping x

Lifestyle, Mental Health, Mindfulness

Embracing Simplicity for Peace and Vitality

Corie Muldoon

By writing down my needs and wants, they in a sense become more real.

Repetitive thoughts backed by strong emotion = thoughts starting to manifest into their physical equivalent

Remember to think only about the good you want, because even if you say “I want peace” vs “I don’t want peace” – what gets picked up is PEACE, whether you want it or not is not relevant.

By putting energy and focus to PEACE, you attract just that. It’s the concept of autosuggestion, and the word peace is interchangeable.

I’m continuously working to harness the power of autosuggestion to create my own dream life. Think and grow rich in all areas type shit.

Here’s my list. Maybe you can relate. Maybe you have a few of your own to add.

What I want:

Peace and safety

Authentic connection

Creative freedom

Physical vitality

Financial security and growth

Simplicity

Nature and spiritual connection

Quality time with Joey and Champ

Adventures

And in the spirit of simply not speaking of the things I don’t want, but knowing what they are… I’m gonna keep on stepping, focusing on the good in my life, the best is yet to come!

PEACE LOVE HAPPINESS HEALTH

THANK YOU

Mental Health, Mindfulness, Relationships

Mastering the Skill of Emotional Regulation

Corie Muldoon

Here’s something nobody tells you:

Emotional regulation is a skill. And most people were never taught how to do it.

That’s why the same arguments happen over and over. That’s why some people can’t have hard conversations without exploding or shutting down.

It’s not that they don’t care. It’s that they literally don’t have the tools.

What Emotional Dysregulation Looks Like

  • Reacting before thinking
  • Saying things you can’t take back
  • Avoiding conflict entirely (because it feels too big to handle)
  • Misinterpreting everything as an attack

Here’s the Problem

When two dysregulated people try to resolve conflict, proximity makes everything worse.

Every interaction becomes another chance to trigger each other. Every conversation or comment adds fuel to the fire.

You can’t solve problems when you’re both emotionally flooded.

What Actually Works

Time. Space. Distance.

Not as punishment. Not as avoidance.

But as the bridge that allows healing to happen.

When you’re not constantly reacting to each other, you finally get room to:

  • Process your own feelings
  • Recognize your patterns
  • Come back with more capacity

The Truth

You can’t have a healthy relationship with someone who can’t regulate their emotions while you’re in constant proximity.

Sometimes love looks like stepping back or creating physical distance so you both have room to grow.

Try this today!

If you’re stuck in a cycle with someone, ask yourself: Are we both calm enough to actually solve this? Or do we need space first?

Books, Healthy Habits, Let Them Theory, Mental Health

When Comments Catch You Off Guard: Let Them and Let Me

Corie Muldoon

“Let Them & Let Me” is a mindset strategy from Mel Robbins:

“Let them” means accepting you can’t control others’ actions, thoughts, or moods (e.g. “Let them be wrong” or “Let them act that way”)

“Let me” is the powerful follow-up, reclaiming your agency by focusing on your own control: your responses, boundaries, and choices (“Let me focus on my own well-being” or “Let me choose my reaction”)

It shifts energy from trying to change others to managing your inner world, creating peace and protecting your time.

Using “let them let me” in real life

Someone says something weird about your relationship, your choices, your body – and suddenly you’re spiraling. Here’s your next move: pause and ask yourself two questions before you react or think too deeply.

Why this works: Most uncomfortable comments aren’t actually attacks – they’re projections. But our brains treat social weirdness like threats, triggering overthinking and defensiveness. These questions help you sort what’s actually happening from what you’re making it mean.

The two-question check:

  • “Did this cross a line, or did it just catch me off guard?” (Boundary violation vs. surprise)
  • “Is this about me, or about them?” (Usually it’s their worldview, insecurity, or social conditioning talking)

If it caught you off guard but didn’t cross a line, a simple response like “that’s not really our style” or “we’re good, thanks” works. No explanation needed.

If it did cross a line, you get to set a boundary – calmly but clearly. Try: “I’m not comfortable discussing that” or “That’s not something I’m open to feedback on.”

Either way, you don’t owe anyone your internal processing or justification for your choices.

Try this today:

Next time a comment feels weird, hit pause. Ask the two questions. Respond (or don’t) from clarity, not reactivity.

I just went through this yesterday. A customer at work made a weird comment and I spiraled. I didn’t have these two questions to bounce back on, but I did have my husband. We peeled back the onion together and realized that I didn’t actually want to punch them in the face, that they just made me feel weird and caught me off guard. Sigh of relief.

It’s really never that deep. I’m glad I spoke up because my hubby and I had a great convo and we’re stronger because of it. It’s not surrendering, it’s let them and let me (Joey’s reading Let Them by Mel Robbins!)

Share your thoughts below!

Mental Health, Mindfulness, Seasonal - Holidays

Daily Candle Rituals for Stress Relief This Holiday Season

Corie Muldoon

Skip the expensive self-care products. This holiday season, strengthen your spirit with the oldest ritual in the book: lighting a candle.

Here’s why it works: the simple act of lighting a candle signals your brain that it’s time to pause. That flame becomes focal point, a micro-meditation.

The simple act of lighting a candle can ground us when holiday chaos peaks. And it’s my favorite way to bring some warmth and comfort into my home!

Your new daily candle rituals:

  • Morning reset: Light a candle while you drink coffee. Watch the flame for 60 seconds before checking your phone
  • Evening wind-down: Light a candle during dinner prep or while journaling. Let it mark the transition from “doing” to “being”
  • Stress relief: Feeling overwhelmed? Light a candle, take three deep breaths, and watch the flame dance

Lighting a candle is all about the intentional pause you’re creating.

Try this today: Buy a pack of tealight candles and light one during a transition in your day. Notice how it shifts your energy!

I bought cute little candle holders from the dollar store and 6-hour burning time tea lights from amazon. They bring me so much joy and help me slow down :p

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Lifestyle, Mental Health, Movement

Sync Your Wellness: Use the Sun to Move and the Moon to Feel

Corie Muldoon

Our energy shifts with nature, so why wouldn’t our wellness routine?!

Here’s a fun concept: the sun guides movement and the moon guides emotional work. I started to sync physical activity with daylight patterns and shadow work with lunar cycles. It’s really transformed how I show up for myself.

Sun-Based Movement:

  • Summer: Long runs, outdoor workouts, extra sessions
  • Winter: Gentle yoga, indoor strength work, treadmill miles
  • Daily: Our body naturally craves movement in daylight

Moon-Based Emotional Work:

  • New Moon: Set intentions for what you want to release or grow
  • Full Moon: Journal deeply, process emotions, cycles of healing
  • Waning Moon: Examine patterns, release what no longer serves

This natural alignment reduces resistance. You’re working with your rhythms, not against them.

Try this today:

Check tonight’s moon phase and spend 5 minutes journaling about one emotion you’re ready to acknowledge.

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