- Follow the 100/0 rule. Give 100% and expect 0%. Your hard work and dedication to the relationship will bring self-fulfillment and happiness, not what the other person does for you.
- Show up for yourself so that you can show up in your relationship.
- Don’t let emotions stack up. Express to your partner that you’re not feeling the best, and take as much space and time as you need to do some self-reflection and regroup.
- When emotions rise during conversation, walk it off and take some deep breaths- pick things up when your emotions have cooled or schedule another time to talk it out. Don’t allow emotion to rule your conversations.
- Don’t keep count. Just because you took the trash out last, doesn’t mean it’s the other person’s turn this time around. Remember give 100, expect 0!
- Set healthy boundaries, and be clear on the consequences if boundaries are crossed.
- Try not to take things personal. Sometimes we aren’t in the best mood, it’s human! If you notice your significant other getting a little worked up, offer to give them space to work through it. That could be physically removing yourself from the room, or allowing your loved one to feel seen and heard by listening intently without judgment or criticism.
- Create and commit to Family Meetings. The reason for this is to get everyone (including children) on the same page with where the family is heading and the effort required to get there. Some meetings are daily, while others are weekly, monthly, quarterly, or yearly.
Below is a list of meetings we currently are implementing with great success:
- Daily Huddle
- Daily Reflection
- Weekly Reflection
- Weekly Finance
- Weekly Timeblock
- Weekly Book Club
- Weekly 80/20 Analysis
- Monthly Reflection
- Monthly Finance
- Quarterly Reflection
- Quarterly Finance
- Yearly Reflection
- Yearly Finance
- Yearly Self-Analysis
- Yearly Goal Setting
- Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.
- Criticize: indicate faults in a disapproving way
- Condemn: express complete disapproval of, typically publicly
- Complain: express dissatisfaction or annoyance about something
- Give honest and sincere appreciation.
- Never show others that you are not interested in what they have to say.
- Don’t try to make your partner over.
- Pay little attentions (do the small things with no expectation or attention drawn to it).
- Be courteous (polite, respectful, considerate in manner).
- And lastly, keep things sexy!
Hope this list brought you some value! Do you have any relationship tips?! Comment below!
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