Experiences, Lifestyle, Mini Retirement

June Date Day: Basketball, Long board, and Luhv’s Vegan Bistro

Went on a date with my hubby this week and it was a blast! We carved out some quality time: an afternoon on our day off together. And the plan was simple: get out of the house, grab some food, and simply enjoy each other. But where?!

The night before, I checked out the area around Luhv’s (our new favorite vegan spot) on google maps and noticed a green area. I zoom in and it’s a park with basketball nets and a walking path! So I came up with the idea to pump up our old basketball, bring out the longboards and see if the park was a hit before heading over to Luhv’s for lunch.

It was a beautiful, sunny Wednesday afternoon in summer. A perfect day to run some baskets, rip the longboard, chill by the water with a joint. After that we scooted over to Luhv’s for a nice ($50 yeee!) sit down meal . I even used my gut instincts to pre-select what we were gonna order and it was all a hit!

All in all, I’m so grateful to be able to slow down and embrace these date days. For us, the park was a throw in since we never did that before and really didn’t know how it’d go. But I felt optimistic and something I haven’t in a long time: excited to shoot hoops with my bestfriend.

I love you Joey D! And I love our life together (:

Let’s keep on stepping xo

PS – even if it rained, or the food sucked, etc we still would have laughed and loved and that’s truly what’s important: embracing and focusing on happiness and love no matter the circumstances.

Lifestyle, Mental Health, Mindfulness

Embracing Simplicity for Peace and Vitality

By writing down my needs and wants, they in a sense become more real.

Repetitive thoughts backed by strong emotion = thoughts starting to manifest into their physical equivalent

Remember to think only about the good you want, because even if you say “I want peace” vs “I don’t want peace” – what gets picked up is PEACE, whether you want it or not is not relevant.

By putting energy and focus to PEACE, you attract just that. It’s the concept of autosuggestion, and the word peace is interchangeable.

I’m continuously working to harness the power of autosuggestion to create my own dream life. Think and grow rich in all areas type shit.

Here’s my list. Maybe you can relate. Maybe you have a few of your own to add.

What I want:

Peace and safety

Authentic connection

Creative freedom

Physical vitality

Financial security and growth

Simplicity

Nature and spiritual connection

Quality time with Joey and Champ

Adventures

And in the spirit of simply not speaking of the things I don’t want, but knowing what they are… I’m gonna keep on stepping, focusing on the good in my life, the best is yet to come!

PEACE LOVE HAPPINESS HEALTH

THANK YOU

Daily Writing Prompt

Is your life today what you pictured a year ago?

This time last year, I was serving part time planning to explore other career options – maybe go all in on real estate or do something completely new like social media marketing for small businesses. I was considering it all, even going back to school.

For the past few years, my biggest hurdle was finding a job I could actually tolerate, consistent, and flexible (knowing my personality). I’m 29, real estate license, no college, serving experience, fitness training experience, marketing experience.

I looked into every possible option. Wrote them all out. I tried something new with some warehouse work – even pitched my marketing ideas. Things we’re cool, but the work hurt (packaging all day) and the pay wasn’t enough all said and done.

As time went on, I just felt a pull back to serving and I started to consider what life would be like if I went all in (open up 7 days a week availability – avg 5 nights a week). Something I didn’t consider as an option before.

Through research, I found most jobs are day jobs. Serving offers 2nd shift – 3-11pm. Perfect for me. I get my workout and lunch in, walks with my dog, and quality time with my hubby (who also serves full time, same schedule). Check.

Most jobs don’t have much flexibility. I’m the type to want to take off for 2 months and go roadtrip (did this in 2024 southeast usa) – and serving let’s me do that. We go during the slower months for a nice reset. This upcoming year we already have 6 camping trips booked, something we couldn’t do say if we had “real jobs” like union or corporate. Check.

So I eventually realized I needed to choose my job based on the lifestyle I wanted. Making great money, maxing out retirement accounts, saving up for that next rental, health insurance locked in, minimal taxes. Plus my days feel like two in one, since I get my whole day with my hubby and pup, then head into work WITH my hubby and we rock serving together (sometimes in the same section). Check, check, check, check, check, AND CHECK.

Life’s been super fun since going all in on serving. I have one focus. I’m not trying to build a business. I’m not looking for or even entertaining side work (sorry to those ignored along the way lol). I work, I leave, and I leave the work at work. Nothing to figure out. I learn from my mistakes and keep growing and improving. It’s a beautiful cycle.

As I’m writing this, it’s 12:00pm on a Tuesday in December. I’m in the back bedroom at our writing desk, with the window next to me slightly open, a nice winter chill. We just had a snowfall, the trees are lookin gorgeous. The sun is shining in. I feel safe and warm. I feel free. Our pup champ is laying on his side next to me snoring. My hubs is in the kitchen eating lunch. I’m about to take Champ out for a walk, then get ready for our shift tonight. Life is good.

If you like my story, Joe was going through a similar career journey the same time I was – read more about his story here

With all that being said, let’s just say, no this isn’t where I thought we’d be a year ago – this is so much better.

Books, Meditation, Mindset, The Alchemist

How to Transform Fear Into Love Today (like an Alchemist)

When the world feels heavy and your heart aches, remember this… you have the power of spiritual alchemy within you

Just as ancient alchemists transformed lead into gold… you can transform fear into love, trauma into wisdom, and pain into compassion.

Love is always stronger than fear, and we’re all connected in this cosmic journey together.

As Paulo Coelho reminds us in The Alchemist, “when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it”—and what we truly want is healing and connection

Turning Fear into Love

The Circle of Light Practice harnesses the universe’s healing energy to transform pain into compassion. This ancient wisdom reminds us that every challenge is an opportunity to spread more love into the world.

Be gentle with yourself in this process.

The Circle of Light Practice:

1. Ground yourself in Mother Earth’s energy: touch grass or hold a stone

2. Send loving-kindness to yourself: “may I be peaceful, may I be safe”

3. Extend that love to those hurting: visualize light surrounding them

4. Connect with real people: call a friend, hug someone, send love via text

This works because trauma separates us (judging mode) while love reconnects us (healing mode)

When we choose love over fear, we become channels of healing for the whole world. Every act of compassion creates a positive ripple that touches countless souls.

Start small today:

Practice the loving-kindness meditation (“may I be peaceful, may I be safe”) for one minute or call someone you love to check-in

You are not alone, sweet soul. We’re all walking each other home

Share your thoughts below!

General, Relationships

Reevaluate Life Prompts for Personal Growth: Couples Edition

Ever feel like you and your partner are running on autopilot? When life gets busy, it’s easy to lose sight of your growth as a couple.

Joe and I set aside time once a year for a life check-in using thoughtful prompts. These prompts are meant to help us discover blind spots, celebrate progress, and realign our priorities together.

Thoughtful prompts aren’t just questions, they’re conversation starters. Try some out during your next quiet evening together and see what insights emerge.

Reevaluate Life Prompts

Below are some example questions:

  1. Looking at our current path: our jobs, our living situation, and how we spend our time – what parts feel really aligned with who we are and what we want? What parts might need tweaking to better match our values or goals?

  2. When we feel most content and ‘in flow’ together in our daily life, what exactly are we doing? Are we creating enough space for those moments, or should we reorganize some things to have more of what makes us thrive?

  3. What’s one thing we each feel a little nervous or uncertain about in our current plans? It could be something small or big – and then let’s brainstorm how we could address that uncertainty together.

These prompts aren’t meant to be answered once and forgotten. Keep responses in a shared google doc and revisit them every few months to see how you’ve grown. Jot down notes, write out any needed fixes, assign action items, keep on growing.

What’s beautiful about this practice is that there are no wrong answers. There’s only opportunities to understand each other more deeply and create a more intentional future together.

Remember, the goal isn’t to have perfect responses but to create space for honest conversation about what matters most.

Quick Tips for Success

  • Set aside distractions

  • Approach each prompt with curiosity rather than judgment

  • Be open to what you discover about yourselves as individuals and as partners

✨ Getting 1% better, together ✨

Relationships

Building Emotional Intimacy: A Couples Guide

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, we’ll be touching on relationships this month!

Emotional intimacy is the sharing of thoughts and feelings with another person in a way that is… safe, trusting, and vulnerable. It is a key aspect of interpersonal relationships.

What does emotional intimacy involve?

  • Feeling close to another person
  • Sharing personal feelings
  • Receiving personal validation
  • Being open and honest with each other
  • Sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings

Strong emotional intimacy comes from showing up emotionally for someone consistently over a long period of time.

When we show up for someone emotionally, we’re making a deposit into their emotional piggy bank. Make enough deposits = something of true value.

Here are some ways to build emotional intimacy, starting with smaller steps:

Daily Connection:

  • 10-minute check-ins about your days
  • Share one good thing and one challenge each day
  • Physical touch without sexual pressure (hand holding, hugs, light touches)
  • Express appreciation for specific things you notice

Activities Together:

  • Cook a meal together
  • Take walks and talk
  • Try a new hobby or class together
  • Create shared goals or projects

Deeper Connection:

  • Share fears and hopes
  • Ask about each other’s feelings beyond surface level
  • Show vulnerability about your own emotions
  • Listen without trying to fix
  • Share memories of why you fell for each other

Small Daily Gestures:

  • Send thoughtful texts
  • Leave little notes
  • Do small favors
  • Express genuine compliments
  • Ask about their feelings/thoughts

Remember to:

  • Start small and build gradually
  • Be patient with the process
  • Focus on quality time without distractions
  • Share your appreciation when they make efforts

A little bit everyday adds up.

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