Inner peace vs inner conflict

When our actions line up with our core values, we feel inner peace.

When our actions go against our core values, we feel inner conflict.

For example…

If I say I’m going to do something, and do it – I feel good.

If I say I’m going to do something, and don’t do it – I feel bad.

Knowing that integrity (doing what I said I’ll do, when I said I’ll do it) is a core value of mine…

I can see right away that I feel bad because my actions are not in alignment.

Moving forward, I’m going to be much more cautious of what I say yes to while putting in place things to help me fulfill my promises (reminders, alarms, google calendar, etc)

Getting to know our core values is important if we are looking to live a healthier, happier life.

When we dig deep on our core values, we change our…

  • Way of thinking
  • Actions
  • Life situation

Core values are like intentions. You write them, feel them, and work to get them done.

Ready to get to work on your core values?

Check out this article I wrote 🙂


How do you deal?

When something bothers you, how do you deal with it?

Do you stomp your feet?

Do you accept without resistance?

Do you pop off at the first sign of opposition?

Or do you keep your reactions in line with your values?

Growing up, my mom taught me to express myself physically and verbally (the Philly attitude that we all know and love lol) but as I got older I realized that I can choose how I react… and my life changed forever.

I don’t get into altercations with others like I did before, things that used to bother me no longer have the same effect. My life is evolving for the better because my reactions are better.

I now take a second to breathe and think how I want to respond. I accept and do what I can in the moment. I try to see it from all sides. And I try to hold compassion and empathy forefront.

So how do you deal?

General, Healthy Habits

Define Your Values

Define what your pushing and pulling motivators are: what is pulling you, and what is pushing you to achieve a specific goal?

These motivators, aka values, are what we base our daily decisions off of.

Sometimes our pushing and pulling motivators conflict, like…

‘I don’t want to be uncomfortable’ (push)…

And ‘I want to be successful’ (pull).

However without being uncomfortable… it’s difficult to achieve success.

See the conflict in values here?

Going with the example above, if we are faced with the decision to call someone who could help us…

If we choose not to call because we don’t want to be uncomfortable…

We are valuing the comfort more than the success.

Changing Values

When we want to change a value because it’s no longer serving us…

We use the reframing technique.

Reframing is like rescripting the dialog that your mind creates and repeats over and over again.

Sooo, let’s write a new dialog!

Instead of ‘I don’t want to be uncomfortable’…

Let’s say ‘every time I am uncomfortable, I am that much closer to success.’

Anytime we hear that old mental dialog, replace it with the new.

Think of it as often you as need to.

Repeat this reframing process with all the values you want to change.

Remember that your values need a ton of attention…

But when you put in the hard work to change them…

They will help you make better life decisions. Totally worth it.

So sit down. Think. What are my values? What am I basing my decisions on?

Reframe your values and stick them on your wall as a constant reminder of the standards you set for yourself.

If you’re curious…

Here are some of my values and what they mean to me…

  • ETHICS: always do what’s right & just
  • HONESTY: be truthful & transparent
  • INTEGRITY: do what I said I’ll do
  • KINDNESS: create positive ripples
  • RESPECT: treat all things with love
  • SIMPLICITY: make the complex simple

Hope this brought some insight!

Remember that we have the power to choose our values.

It’s equally important that we voluntarily choose values for ourselves…

Because they [values] are what we base our daily decisions off of.

And as you know, you’re either running on auto-pilot or making conscious decisions…

Choosing our own values paves the way for our reactions and behaviors.

Happy choosing!
x Corie