No matter what you’re going through…
You have the power to redirect your thinking.
You can think about what you’re grateful for.
You can think about peace and love.
You can think about ideas and concepts.
You can think about your own point of view.
When times get tough, let’s look inward and change the narrative.
You’re browsing Amazon and see something you like.
* add to cart *
After you do a little shopping, you now may have a couple things in your cart.
The total price is high too.
Before going straight to check out…
Let’s go through each item again to see if you really like it.
But wait, do you need it right now?
If not, save it for later.
Then close the app. Come back tomorrow.
I literally have 55 things saved for later in my Amazon cart from doing this.
Imagine my poor wallet if bought everything I liked impulsively like I used to.
If something bothers you, stirs up emotions, or hurts your feelings…
You have two choices… do something or do nothing.
If you choose to do something this could be:
If you chose to do nothing, that’s that. You accept the situation as it is.
There is no right or wrong choice… more like a better or worse choice depending on the current circumstances.
Is the other person open to hearing your feelings about the situation with no judgment or criticism? Or would speaking your feelings aloud cause even more argument and pain?
Would removing yourself from the situation bring more peace? Or would walking away cause more pain and suffering for yourself?
Of course you should also consider moral, ethical, and legal principles in your decision making because they are our guiding post to living a happy, fulfilled life surrounded by other happy, fulfilled humans.
So whether you decide to do something or do nothing, if it’s right for you – if your choice makes your life happier and / or healthier – it’s the better choice. So go with it.
I put my hand out to shake your hand (stimulus).
(space to decide how to respond)
Your hand meets mine for the shake (response).
Something bothers you and stirs up emotions (stimulus).
(space to decide how to respond)
Take a deep breath (response).
NOW, you can allow your best self to decide how you are going to respond.
Take a deep breath before deciding how you are going to respond to something. Especially if that something makes you upset, frustrated, etc.
Are you doing to do something, or do nothing? Make a plan and see it through or let go and move on.
Replay is when we are imagining a situation in our mind over and over again.
We might be thinking about what we could have or should have done differently.
Or we might be thinking about the future, about responsibilities, goals, or reality.
And we probably now feel super overwhelmed and frustrated, which can lead to feeling off for hours, days, weeks, months… years.
We just can’t shake it. We keep thinking and thinking and thinking and that makes us more and more anxious. We carry it instead of putting it down and going on our way.
This is a prime example of the internal conflict “Replay”. And sadly, these types of conflicts can make our bodies very unhealthy overtime. They eat away at us physically, mentally, emotionally bit by bit.
As we always say on One Percent Healthier, the first step to change is Awareness.
Noticing that Replay is happening is the first step to get out of replay.
How does Replay feel at this moment? Are your core values conflicting? Did you make a mistake? Do you want better but do the opposite? What can you do differently moving forward to get better results? Do you have a plan, or is there a plan you can review?
When you notice, or are aware, you can take space. You can work through these mental barriers and come out stronger / more equipped for life.
When we notice the thoughts and feelings we are experiencing, we can use them as stepping stones, as a way to keep evolving, as prompts to ask questions and learn more from this school of life, instead of being stuck in Replay.
Side note: Most of the people you’ll meet during this lifetime will be stuck in their own version of Replay. Thinking and thinking on and on about things that happened or might happen. And they may never notice the internal conflict. They live in survival mode and most likely believe who they truly are, are the thoughts and feelings they have. Soooo be on high alert and respond accordingly ☺
Below are the mental seedlings I drop in my own mind so that I can begin to move out of Replay and into the Present (consciousness without thinking):
“I’m experiencing Replay and that’s okay. This is common in humans. And I know that I am not the thoughts and feelings I am experiencing, but the Awareness that notices. Who I truly am is more than Replay. I am the stillness that creates life. And I can create my own peace of mind.”
Congrats! At this point in Replay recovery you have dug deep and planted some positive seeds that will flourish with the right care. What kinda care? Self careee, my fav!
Open the windows or take a walk, drink water, eat a healthy snack, burn sage or palo santo, wear some crystals, brew herbal tea, play meditation or classical music, put a face mask on, do some yoga, read some blogs☺, create, watch a documentary, and whatever else you can and would like to do to relax and feel happier and healthier.
Mental health is real, we know this. But what does that mean? It means that we have to do the work to BUILD and MAINTAIN our mental health.
Just like we eat healthy and exercise to build and maintain our physical health, we reflect and we consciously think positive thoughts to build and maintain our mental health.
We reflect by noticing our thoughts and feelings and doing the work to cope in a positive and productive way.
We consciously think positive thoughts by making the effort to find things to be grateful for, to have less judgement and more compassion, to cut off the expectations and learn to let life happen and be grateful for everything that is the present moment.
You are more than your thoughts and feelings. You are the creator of your own beautiful life ♡
x Cor
The past does not define you if you decide to take different action today.
Because what you do now, in this very moment, is what truly matters.
The past should be reflected upon if you are retrieving information for immediate use…
Making sure not to dwell on what you could or should of done.
We’re looking for lessons…
Because that’s how we grow and become better.
The future is great (and important) to plan, but living in the future will only disrupt your present moment…
The only true moment you will ever have.
When you catch yourself in dream mode more often than you would like…
Acknowledge that you are in dream mode, or have been lately…
And just look around NOW.
Notice things that you haven’t noticed before.
Listen to all the noises.
Smell the air.
Feel what’s in front of you.
Notice your body’s energy.
Pray for what you appreciate.
Be present.
Think about it ♡
x Corie
Love is action displayed without expectation.
Love happens unconditionally.
Rough day? Love.
Arguments stirred by emotion? Love.
Fear, doubt, worry? Love.
Love is the ground that we as a couple walk on.
No matter the pains that life may bring us, nothing ever beats our love for one another.
On my darkest days, I know I can count on his love. And on his, he can count on mine.
We show up whenever we possibly can and just love.
There’s no running tally of who has loved the most. Or whose turn it is to love this time.
Love is not 50/50… it is 100/0.
Giving your absolute all with no expectation from the other.
It’s not easy, it’s a true commitment and takes true understanding and compassion.
It’s constant work —> helping each other through the storm to self realization.
Together we empower each other.
But I do not look to him to meet my needs. Nor does he look at me to meet his.
We simply are. We simply do. And we simply be. Loving and serving every step of the way.
xx Corie and Joey
